Thank you for being a friend; Mark and Pam Allmendinger and their quilt "Mind Your P's and Q's"

There have been a few times in my life when I was truly blessed beyond measure.  The first was to be born in a loving family.  The second was to have two daughters with an outstanding man.  Mark and I married in 1973 when we were just babies, really, with no clue who we were or what marriage was.  We hung in there for 17 years and two daughters.  Then the next surprising blessing occurred, we became very good friends after our divorce!  Here is Mark with his wife, also my good friend, Pam and their quilt.  Mark and Pam are always invited to my family events because although we are not married anymore, Mark is still family to me, our children and their families, my siblings and their families and my parents.  Folks are usually pretty astounded with this happily blended family and we are pretty pleased with it too! 

Pam tells me this story about the actual picture taking:

"It probably took us longer to get the picture taken then for Ginnie to make the quilt At least we provided some entertainment for the travelers on Kennedy (the street next to their house)! It was fairly hilarious watching Mark set the camera up on the hood of the car and then run to the quilt before the shutter clicked ... Thank you Ginnie this is such a treasure!"

My definition of family is people who you can count on, who will be there for you, who know who you are and what you believe in, even if they do not believe exactly as you do.  For all my days, I know that Mark and Pam will be there for me, my family, and our children.  Thank you guys for being friends and family all these years.  Enjoy your quilt and have a Merry Christmas.


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Comment by Virginia "Ginnie" Leiner on January 19, 2014 at 11:34am

Dear Sandi:

So true!  My children, when they were teenagers, thanked me for being friends and being friendly with their father and his new family.  It just takes so much energy to hold a grudge and to hate and in our divorce, each of us had made enough mistakes and had enough love that there was no guilty and no innocent party.  Just two people who needed to go down different paths.  We each made great second marriages and Mark and Pam have now been married longer that Mark and I were!  So glad to hear that you have made a happy divorce and a phenomenal friendship too.  Be well!

Comment by Sandi Brooks on January 9, 2014 at 9:06am

What a BEAUTIFUL quilt!!  I loved just as much your story of how you and Mark have remained good friends.  This benefits 'everyone', particularly your children.  When my husband [of 25 years] and I divorced, we too remained good friends.  We both believed that sometimes, through no fault of our own, 'relationships change' this case we went from marriage into a new relationship of enduring friendship and respect.  Our children loved this and it also set an example for them which is:  When one relationship ends between two people, a new relationship 'CAN' be created.  All too often I've seen people go through a divorce and use their children as pawns in a game and have seen women take a man down the drain.  Totally NOT necessary.  Great job on your quilt!!   :)

Comment by Virginia "Ginnie" Leiner on January 5, 2014 at 10:19pm

thank you, Amy

Comment by Amy E. Bevilockway on January 5, 2014 at 6:12pm

Thank you for sharing.  Wonderful quilt.  Wonderful story.

Comment by Virginia "Ginnie" Leiner on December 17, 2013 at 11:27pm

I am very lucky!

Comment by Karen Lightman on December 17, 2013 at 10:27pm

Super cool story :)

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